How we manage the reactions of teenagers

Many teenagers are irritable, get angry easily, and feel frustrated by many things that happen to them, such as managing their careers. The attitude of their parents, the values, the rules that govern their life at home or at school, are no longer accepted and are a source of tension and questioning for them.

These reactions of teenagers are understandable and expected. They are in a transitional phase with psychological and physical changes due to the hormonal and developmental changes that characterize adolescence, and confusion about their future.

They are not children anymore but not adults yet. The anger that characterizes adolescent behavior is part of their gradual withdrawal and autonomy. The path to their independence passes through various difficult phases where angry reactions, disputes in the family, are inevitable. It is important that parents do not take their children's reactions personally during adolescence.

Fights can be avoided if parents let their children talk and say what they want right from the start. To let their children say for themselves what career they are thinking of following. By showing this respect, parents are more likely to have the same respect from their children.

Only then can they themselves suggest solutions to their teenagers and be listened to. Parents should always remember that they are role models for their children. That is why their voice must remain low, they must not use inappropriate expressions, they must not belittle their children and they must not bring up past problems. Of course, it is sometimes normal for parents to lose their temper. But even under these difficult circumstances they should not be offensive because they will reinforce the view in their teenagers that they do not respect them. The danger is that the children react, showing less respect and appreciation.

One method that can help parents is to talk with others about the problems they are having with their teenage children. These may be other adult family members or friends who had or have children in their teens.

The exchange of experiences or even advice from a career advisor, give new ideas and help to better solve the really difficult situations and relationships concerning their children's careers. Despo Kirmitsi, BSc, MA Career and Vocational Guidance Consultant